Tackling Self-Esteem with Hypnotherapy
You may have read in the introductory page that Thomas himself has been well acquainted with tackling his own self esteem issues that lead him down the road of smoking and obesity.
No one is born with low self esteem. However it is estimated that 85% of people suffer from low self-esteem. Self-esteem and self-worth are how we value ourselves; it is how we perceive ourselves and our value to the world and how valuable we think we are to others. Self-esteem affects our trust in others, our relationships, our work – nearly every part of our lives. Positive self-esteem gives us the strength and flexibility to change our lives and grow from our mistakes without fear of rejection. On the other hand, low self-esteem is debilitating and can inhibit us from reaching our full potential.
Low self-esteem can commonly lead to the individual feeling unworthy, incapable and incompetent. In fact, low self-esteem can contribute to a downward spiral of negative feelings and attitudes that become increasingly difficult to re-emerge from.
Such downward spirals can lead to excessive worry, stress and depression and are often associated with obesity, smoking and other addictions.
Some symptoms of low self-esteeem:
- frequently finding ourselves in upsetting situations
- self-doubt and nagging thoughts that we don’t measure up
- feelings of guilt about what we did or did not do
- recurring and dwelling on painful or unpleasant memories
- discomfort in new situations
- poor personal relationships
- doubts about physical appearance and mental memories
- easily offended, angered or irritated
- fear of taking risks
- fear of being ridiculed
- feelings of being unloved and unlovable.
Low self-esteem often has its roots in childhood trauma or negative life experiences or as a result of some other problem which causes distress and disruption. In some cases, it can be all pervasive, affecting all aspects of our lives and in other cases only significant in particular aspects.
Early childhood or life experiences that can lead us to thinking poorly of ourselves and developing negative self-image include:
- systematic neglect or abuse
- failing to meet parental standards
- failing to meet peer group standards
- growing up in a stressful environment (eg alcoholic or constantly arguing parents)
- being on the end of other people’s stress
- belonging to a social or ethnic group that suffers from prejudice
- absence of praise, warmth and affection or interest
- being the odd one out at school or home
- later life experiences such as bullying in the workplace
- abusive relationships.
Our conscious mind will typically store these memories, often manifesting themselves in physical distress. The negative energies associated with them and consequently affect our reactions and actions when faced with difficult or perceived difficult situations leading to biased thinking and beliefs about ourselves and negative inner dialogue.
No one is born with low self-esteem and as demonstrated previously, it is developed over time, often in our early life but also in later life.
Hypnotherapy is a deeply relaxing therapy which leads to an altered state of consciousness where the logical, analytical part of the brain shuts down whilst the non-analytical, emotional side (where our beliefs, memories, habitual responses and instincts reside) becomes more alert.
Combined with psychotherapy, hypnotherapy can release the stored energy of traumatic and negative memories which affect our inner, unconscious beliefs and help us to develop a more positive attitude towards ourselves.
High self-esteem is the corner stone and foundation of achievement and allows us to live more satisfying and fulfilling lives.